What are Women Worth?

Posted on May 13, 2012 by Kelly

Mother’s Day

The label implies some grand expression of affection. It has joined the ranks of Christmas in my book. A commercial occasion that relies on the amount of money spent to determine the depth of ones love. An interesting addendum to the current definitions of success. Equating the value of someones life by the income generated is a disease of current civilizations. It is a reflection of a masculine mindset that has been adopted by male and female alike.

If we have denounced our own feminine flavor who can point a finger at the men for agreeing?

The expression of empowering women to me sounds like we are turning them into more masculine creatures. Feminine isn’t about power. Never was never will be.

The feminine is about nurture and empathy, compassion and love. It has intrigued me to contemplate the wisdom of the universe. In accordance with the honeymaker theory it is almost comical to look at the business of men. Business=busy+ness lol. In the big picture it is the action or business of men to acquire the materials for creation. The nectar if you will. It is then the job of the honeymakers or women to make something of it. The two part system isn’t about the importance of one or the other. The importance is both. The beauty of this arrangement is the predisposition of women to please the man they love!

Rather than aspiring to gain power and control over everything, we are talking about the global domination masculine mode, women want to give the love to their family. This entails a mutual benefit or win-win hardwired into the creators (read honeymakers). The women are naturally and joyfully willing to give to the family. It is in fact the only reward that really matters, the joy of the others.

On this Mother’s day I am sharing the thought that maybe as women we can begin to see our feminine value and start to move away from mimicking masculinity.

Consider this;

Men seek the prize we are born with. That being said, what are women here for?

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Success for Women

Posted on April 28, 2012 by Kelly

Struggling to become successful I was contemplating the motivation behind success. I looked at men because they were most often more successful and that bothered my mind.
In thinking about the thing I dissected what I believed to be the root motivation for their successful behavior.
I came up with sex. Not original at all I know, kind of a no brainer. But then I went further asking why if the big motivator for success is sex, what motivates women? We are born with the prize.
It is from here I began a new approach to relationships and the dynamics between men and women.
I used the fundamental law of physics, precession, to explore the universal purpose behind what drives the genders.
Using the model of a bee after the flower for its nectar as a simple illustration we can visualize a straight line narrow focus. All the bee thinks about is nectar. Perpendicular to that purpose however is the precession. It is the underlying universal purpose of pollination that derives from the collection of nectar.

Using this model and replacing the bee with a man and the flower with female sexual organs we think the precession is the procreation.
What if it isn’t? What if the child is the nectar and the universe has a much grander purpose for the male sex drive?
I believe that is the case. I believe I have found the precession of human relationships.

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Life Thrives!

Posted on November 28, 2011 by Kelly

I expect many people to be very uncomfortable and probably refuse to watch this. If you are one of those people please listen for a moment. I experienced a situation that brought into focus this truth. If I see something happen that is morally wrong and I refuse to participate that is good, but it is only going halfway. If I do not ACT to change what I see I may as well be the one committing it. I am in fact just as guilty from a consciousness level.

There is a man by the name of Benjamin Fulford that has been revealing and reporting on these same issues for years now. His latest posting states “One of the immediate triggers is a lawsuit that was filed in New York on November 23rd, claiming the assets of the global financial system belong to the people of the planet and not a powerful religious cult that uses the United Nations as a façade.” in reference to the ‘falling apart’ of the elite Foster Gamble discusses.

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Procrastination Part 3

Posted on November 23, 2011 by Kelly


Procrastination Conquered

This is what it looks like to me. I am almost there! Procrastination Conquered!

I promised updates on my progress with overcoming procrastination. I have certainly made great strides yet I am not able to leave it behind entirely. I don’t think I am the only one! Here is how my strategy has evolved.

Time management was something I was seriously lacking in. I had never studied it or given it any serious attention. I have started to focus on time management skills. It is definitely helping so I will share the process.

I have begun scheduling my day, literally hour by hour. This at first seemed like a totally restrictive idea and completely in opposition to my number one goal of freedom right?

Well here is the thing.

If I am the one making the schedule how am I any less free?

Perspective is everything! When I realized that making lists and scheduling my time was an effective procrastination slayer I changed my way of thinking about it. Procrastination has been my number one drawback or obstacle in creating the future I intend. I have great ideas and plans that I never follow through on.

It isn’t a lack of will power it is a procrastination attack!

This attack is really an episode of self doubt, a dip into the lake of victimhood and excuses. I couldn’t see that before, I would instead use my lack of attaining a specific goal as internal proof of my inability to achieve something. That was followed by my laying down and QUITTING. The only guaranteed way to fail is to quit. I have that mastered!

I learned a powerful lesson about agreements and trusting myself at The Gift Seminar put on by Jay Fiset. It boils down to my ability to renegotiate with myself at any time. The secret for me has been to;

  • Allow myself enough time to complete the task I add to my to-do list.
  • Choose to renegotiate BEFORE I berate myself for failing to meet the goal!

Of course I first had to be honest about How, When, Where and Why I procrastinate and explore the root of it. I had to admit to myself that most of the things I do in a day are just that, things. Busy work to make it look like I am doing something when in fact;

I am actively engaging in a process that PREVENTS me from accomplishing my goals.

In other words I found myself doing it ALL THE TIME! I needed a tool that would help me stop this pattern in my life. I decided to take a few skills tests regarding time management.

I had the definition of freedom mixed in with not doing anything.

This meant that if someone or something was managing my time I was no longer free. The truth is more like this;

Freedom is doing everything you ever dreamed of doing.

It is discovering the very essence of your being and becoming ll that you are with no holding back. Freedom is not passive it is action and adventure. This confusion has left me motionless out of a misunderstanding within myself. I am writing about this very personal struggle to help others gain some new perspectives on procrastination. It is not impossible to overcome. I know I am making tremendous progress in my own life. I am taking action now and moving towards my goals instead of chasing my tail and whining about how hard life is.

I am using this daily schedule to get myself back on track when I realize I am ‘procrastinating’ again. I look to see what I said I would be doing, thats all it takes. I can either do it or renegotiate and change the schedule. Either way it puts me back in charge of my day and delivers a death blow to the procrastination habit!

Here is how I started my time management program. I took a simple quiz to discover where I need help. This is a good Quiz for starters.

I took a quiz for students assessing study habits. Here were my results:

Setting goals 3

Breaking down tasks into steps 0

Prioritising 4

Using Lists 2

Persevering when things get difficult 4

Organising your work and meeting deadlines 8

Revising for examinations 2

Avoiding procrastination 3

Score 0-15  I scored 3.25! That leaves a little room for improvement.

Notice that I scored a zero on breaking tasks down into steps. I have been working hard on this and the results from this one tiny piece are astounding! I’ll share them next time.

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I AM

Posted on November 22, 2011 by Kelly

There is this spark in each of us that is who and what we really are.

It is what I AM and also what you are. It is in this spark that the desire to ‘join’ starts. There is a need to become one with our origins, the Universe, in a very organic way.

It is like a magnet drawing us all together. The chaos is created by the unawareness of our unique place or function. Like a puzzle, each piece is needed to create the whole, and there is not a single piece that is unnecessary. When you try to make the wrong piece fit all you achieve is the destruction of the whole.

Has it occurred to anyone else out there that all of our societal systems and civilizations promote this? This clumping as I see it, is the first step in creating separatism and competition between the groups. The more of that clumping that occurs the harder it is to shed it. Grouping seems a better description of a cooperative effort stemming from real thought and intention.

So if I am a:

  • single
  • white
  • mother
  • on a street
  • in a neighborhood
  • in a city
  • in a county
  • in a state
  • in a country
  • on a continent
  • in a hemisphere
  • on a planet

I have automatically built 12 walls to set me apart from the rest of humanity.

The last label unites me with earthlings but perpetuates the separation from other extra terrestrial races. It goes on and on.

I can bring in nationalities, hair color, language, or religion indefinitely until I am isolated from the rest of the universe.

This is where most of us seem to live.

This isolated state is brought on by focusing on the differences between us. The more we isolate ourselves mentally the more an emotional need develops  to belong. It can be no other way based on cause and effect. When we become really aware of our uniqueness we find that that is in fact the ultimate unifying factor because it applies to EVERYONE!

Now that we have had a moment to step back and understand that the separation is itself an illusion because we are all inside the same universe, do you feel different?

Have you ever looked at it from that angle?
Can you wrap your mind around the fact that the more we try to belong the harder it becomes to find our group? Focusing on our similarities erases the sense of isolation. It satisfies because it is truth. Traveling teaches me that people are just people wherever you go. We all have the same fears and desires. We want to be accepted and loved, no matter what language we speak.

We do all have places we belong. The skin cells all bond together to create that system in the whole as do bone cells or any of the other different systems of the organism. It is when those systems do not work smoothly within the framework that illness and even death occur.

Health, is merely the cooperation of unique entities toward a common goal.

There are physical systems, mental systems and emotional and spiritual systems. The unique combination of these form what we are in this world, human. If any one of these systems is out of sync the whole suffers. Not just our individual being but the entire race. Everything each of us does affects the whole of creation.

I created a visual to try and make this easier to understand. You can find it here.

We are all part of this same thing called life. When we stop fighting against ourselves everyone and everything will win. Losers aren’t natural, it is a condition imposed by the mindset of humanity.

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Why am I?

Posted on November 19, 2011 by Kelly

I just found this while cleaning up my computer. I wrote this many years ago. I found today it was an important piece of my growth and subsequent progress. It is actually quite a long narrative so I have broken it up into smaller parts. Stay tuned for the rest of the series.

I am compelled to write; to somehow try to explain that which I know internally, in the very core of my being as truth. I am not the only one that has reached this same conclusion, nor will I be the last.

I hope you will be the next.

Why Am I? Not Who because that can only be answered AFTER the Why!

Let us begin in the middle, for from that point the past and future are both within sight. The middle being basically where we all stand now.

Right now.

That is the other important point to the middle, the now. That is all there really is! Translated that means it is the only time upon which we can exert an influence. The same truth applies to who.

Now is the answer to when and I, or myself only, is the truth of who. Where is not important because the actual place that changes happen universally is inside your soul, your consciousness or whatever you call that spark of life that makes you uniquely you.

I expect to jump off on a number of tangents here and there that may seem unrelated, but really are not. The first chance to do so appears right here.

I want to comment on your individuality, your uniqueness and what that means. It is certainly an accepted knowledge that ‘belonging’ to some group is the goal. It is certainly expressed in many different ways, but still becomes a ‘grouping’. The universe itself shuns the grouping of identity at this level. This may seem contradictory but in fact it is the reason for our uniqueness.

We are like an individual cell of a larger organism. It is through the cooperation of all of the independent entities that the larger organism can function properly. So it is up and down the scale, be it a large organism like the galaxy, or a small organism like our own body.

Our body doesn’t want every cell to be just like our skin cells! It NEEDS the individuality of each system to cooperate with the rest seamlessly for optimum performance.

This seems so plain, so obvious, yet so over looked.

BE UNIQUE! BE JUST YOU! There cannot be anything unattractive or wrong about you, you are just different, as you ought to be!

It is my opinion that the troubles in our lives stem from this very basic foundation. It is a belief somehow that we should be like others. I think it is ingrained into us as a form of hypnosis or programming from birth.

If we are independent, and comfortable being so, we are a threat to those who seek to control us. Ask yourself : How much time is really invested in learning who we are really as compared to time invested looking or acting like everyone else?

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My Dirty Secret

Posted on November 17, 2011 by Kelly

This is it. I have spent better than 20 years studying reading and attending seminars about self improvement. I have had great flashes of insight and am grateful for all the information and growing these resources allowed me. I finally ‘made it’.

What does that mean? It means that self growth is a path and there really is only one destination. It isn’t anything except self awareness. The lessons continue, life goes on. It is just that you see it from a different perspective and take a different message from the events.

The latest step for me along the path of awareness came from a three day free seminar called The Gift. The name is an understatement.

This is a grueling three days make no mistake. It was one of the most revealing and eye-opening weekends of my life. It exposed the root of my endless obstacles. It pointed the way like an arrow to my purpose. It left me in awe of the power within each of us.

The answers are different for everyone that attends. It is all about you. This is what I found out about me, my dirty little secret, I have spent my life as a victim.
More like a martyr,

“Everything I do for you and you treat me like this?”

It is an excuse to not be held accountable for my own life. It is how I stay safe from the fear of not being good enough. If I keep my focus on external events I can claim helplessness.

It doesn’t sound like much on the surface. It is a rip tide underlying every choice I make. It is why I am where I am today and yesterday and tomorrow as well.

I have been creating situations to prove that I am in fact a victim over and over in my life.

These ‘obstacles’ are the very opportunities needed to learn this lesson. That’s why it happens again and again. Different places, different people the same story, a repeating pattern. The cool part is to understand that as long as the same conditions continue to recreate you can be certain you haven’t given up on yourself! It is the repeating pattern that is really waving the flag of opportunity.

What we do with this information determines if the pattern holds or if the whole world changes course. Life can change in the blink of an eye.

Truth is that if something is predictable it is preventable.

There are examples of this in the free book I recommend

HERE

Please read it. You see you are either a victim, a rescuer or the persecutor in a cycle of victimhood. EVERYONE in your life is playing one of these roles or they wouldn’t be there. The cycle goes around and everyone changes their roles to keep the game going. The only way to win is to stop playing!

Identifying the pattern isn’t enough. We all are quite aware of what the pattern is. “Not this again” right? The secret to changing the result is to change the pattern. This requires tools.
Maslow’s Maxim says that if the only tool you have is a hammer every problem becomes a nail. How do we acquire new tools? Education is the one word answer.

Realize that you don’t know what you don’t know and find someone that has gone before you. I don’t believe any one can truly teach something they haven’t experienced. Through the sharing of these experiences we begin to create a new awareness. In the helping of others we ultimately help ourselves.

I have made a pact with myself to step out of the game. I am watching everything change. It is changing because I have changed. If you want to change your life start

HERE

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Thinking Patterns

Posted on November 17, 2011 by Kelly

Changing thinking patterns begins with understanding the mechanics of thought. This video is a great demonstration of that process. I love the way it explains the process in a way that is easy to understand. I watched a couple times right away to catch it all. Go Ahead, feed your brain!

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Think Differently

Posted on October 5, 2011 by Kelly

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Think More

Posted on May 30, 2011 by Kelly

Lake Superior FogHow did you learn to think?
Children grow up playing games mimicking the adults they see in real life or on TV. This is where we learn how to function in our world. It is also your first lesson in how to think.

In this article I am going to ask you to look at this thought process you currently employ and try to be objective. You may be in for a surprise when you see how pre-programmed most of your decisions are.

Today’s world is overwhelming in its information overload. The billions of pieces of knowledge that come rushing in everyday would flatten us if we didn’t use some form of filtration system. The power of the human mind is such that automatic filters operate without us having to consciously engage them, much like the automatic process of breathing keeps us alive. We CAN think about our breathing and focus on it, but it will happen without our direct participation. When you realize that your thoughts work this same way, happening at an automatic level UNLESS you consciously direct them, it begins to crack open the door to another way of life. Continue reading →

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