This is it. I have spent better than 20 years studying reading and attending seminars about self improvement. I have had great flashes of insight and am grateful for all the information and growing these resources allowed me. I finally ‘made it’.
What does that mean? It means that self growth is a path and there really is only one destination. It isn’t anything except self awareness. The lessons continue, life goes on. It is just that you see it from a different perspective and take a different message from the events.
The latest step for me along the path of awareness came from a three day free seminar called The Gift. The name is an understatement.
This is a grueling three days make no mistake. It was one of the most revealing and eye-opening weekends of my life. It exposed the root of my endless obstacles. It pointed the way like an arrow to my purpose. It left me in awe of the power within each of us.
The answers are different for everyone that attends. It is all about you. This is what I found out about me, my dirty little secret, I have spent my life as a victim.
More like a martyr,
“Everything I do for you and you treat me like this?”
It is an excuse to not be held accountable for my own life. It is how I stay safe from the fear of not being good enough. If I keep my focus on external events I can claim helplessness.
It doesn’t sound like much on the surface. It is a rip tide underlying every choice I make. It is why I am where I am today and yesterday and tomorrow as well.
I have been creating situations to prove that I am in fact a victim over and over in my life.
These ‘obstacles’ are the very opportunities needed to learn this lesson. That’s why it happens again and again. Different places, different people the same story, a repeating pattern. The cool part is to understand that as long as the same conditions continue to recreate you can be certain you haven’t given up on yourself! It is the repeating pattern that is really waving the flag of opportunity.
What we do with this information determines if the pattern holds or if the whole world changes course. Life can change in the blink of an eye.
Truth is that if something is predictable it is preventable.
There are examples of this in the free book I recommend
HERE
Please read it. You see you are either a victim, a rescuer or the persecutor in a cycle of victimhood. EVERYONE in your life is playing one of these roles or they wouldn’t be there. The cycle goes around and everyone changes their roles to keep the game going. The only way to win is to stop playing!
Identifying the pattern isn’t enough. We all are quite aware of what the pattern is. “Not this again” right? The secret to changing the result is to change the pattern. This requires tools.
Maslow’s Maxim says that if the only tool you have is a hammer every problem becomes a nail. How do we acquire new tools? Education is the one word answer.
Realize that you don’t know what you don’t know and find someone that has gone before you. I don’t believe any one can truly teach something they haven’t experienced. Through the sharing of these experiences we begin to create a new awareness. In the helping of others we ultimately help ourselves.
I have made a pact with myself to step out of the game. I am watching everything change. It is changing because I have changed. If you want to change your life start
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